Caregivers, how do you set yourself boundaries to not overwhelm your own health?
As someone with some care responsibilities as a CKD patient for my family members, for example, I tend to give too much handling help when I should delegate, but how do you handle bounties and delegating care with your support system/family members?
Hello
, This is a great question. I had to learn to say no. You can get burnt out. I am a caregiver for my parents. I had to get someone to help me so that I could take a deep breath. It's not easy at all. What things do you do? Diane (Team Member) Hello,
; using your voice to say no is excellent. I have a tendency to say yes or okay. Still, later, when I want to say no, I believe it takes confidence to say no, which only I've started. However, I still use excuses to cover my back so I don't get upset anymore. Is that something you've experienced before?
Thanks
Sabad
(team member)Hello
, I was a yes person for years and years. Even if I didn't want to do something I would say yes anyway. I didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings or make people mad at me. Oh yeah, I would make up stuff at times. I got to work, got to work an extra shift, etc.
My father lives 2.5 hours from me, with traffic that is a 4-hour drive one way. He just turned 90, so I go visit him twice a week. On one occasion he asked me to come back the next day. I asked him why?? He said, well what else do you have to do? I told him I needed to take care of myself and get some rest. He was so understanding and said, I know you get tired too.
As you know I have several chronic illnesses. If there was any event going on, birthdays, holidays, deaths, births, special events, etc. I would jump in and take over. Oh, those days are over. Now, everyone has to do their part.
My granddaughter is graduating next week. The party is being held at my home. In the old days, I would have jumped in and took control of everything. The only question I asked was, how many people are you inviting? I understand everything is in order, and I haven't lifted a finger to do anything. l just have to walk down my stairs to the event.
The only thing I have to say is, I guess I am not the savior after all!!! And you are right. I am using my voice, now it's your turn. Diane (Team Member)
