Parenting An Elderly Person With Chronic Kidney Disease: The Challenges and Strategies

Parenting a child with chronic kidney disease (CKD) can present many challenges and difficulties. But how about your adult parent who has turned into your child? As a daughter of a parent with CKD, I have experienced these challenges firsthand. I have found strategies that have helped me cope with and support my elderly father.

Caregiving comes with unique challenges

As a parent, raising a parent with chronic kidney disease (CKD) comes with a unique set of challenges. But it's important to remember that our elderly parents with CKD are still our parents first and foremost.

One of the biggest challenges of parenting an adult with CKD is managing their care. This includes medication schedules, dietary restrictions, and doctor appointments. It can be overwhelming to keep track of everything, but having a routine and setting reminders can help.

My father, who is 90, is aware that he has to take medications and attend frequent medical appointments. It is sometimes difficult to explain to him why he has to undergo some procedures. I sometimes feel like he feels left out and isolated. I have found that involving him in his care, such as letting him help with medication and meal planning can empower him and make him feel more in control.

The emotional impact of caregiving

Another challenge is dealing with the emotional impact of a CKD diagnosis on him and the family. It can be difficult to watch my father struggle with a chronic illness and feel helpless at times. It's important to provide emotional support. I find ways to help him cope, such as through therapy or support groups.

Managing an elderly person with CKD also requires making lifestyle adjustments. Such as limiting physical activities and avoiding certain foods. It can be challenging to balance these restrictions while keeping things normal.

I found it challenging to balance their medical needs with their desire to participate in activities and make friends. I had to be cautious about exposing him to germs. He has several illnesses. But I also didn't want him to miss out on experiences that are important for his social and emotional health.

Finding alternatives

One strategy that has helped me is finding alternative activities and hobbies that he can still enjoy. He likes art and music.

It's also important to prioritize my father’s mental health and well-being. I just want to make sure he has opportunities to socialize with some who understands what he’s going through. We go to senior citizens centers or support groups for people with CKD.

It's also important for me to advocate for him in his community. This includes working with his many healthcare providers and ensuring he has the necessary accommodations and support. As well as educating others about CKD and breaking down stigmas and misconceptions.

Overall, taking care of an elderly parent-child with CKD requires patience, resilience, and a willingness to adapt to new challenges. But with the right support and strategies in place, it is possible to provide parents with a happy and fulfilling life, despite the difficulties of their condition.